What was it that drew you to your significant other? Their blue eyes? Their ginger countenance? Their smile? Their voice?
I can’t quite put my finger on what it was exactly about Hulk that first drew me in… I don’t necessarily think that it was anything specific, I think it was mores a case of a friendship that quickly developed into a relationship.
He was my manager, and had been for a little while before we had actually met.
We were introduced by a mutual friend, and a work colleague, and even then, I wasn’t necessarily that interested in him, because I had actually believed that he was straight. God, I just cringe every single time I say that, because I know how much he absolutely LOVES when I say that. It’s an ego boost for him – he really seems to enjoy talking about how ‘straight-acting’ he is, and how before he met me he’d hooked up with girls etc simply because he knows how much it annoys me.
I remember the first night we met up outside work, he was upset about something so I begrudgingly agreed to meet up with him because he didn’t really have any ‘gay friends’ to talk to – y’know, because he was so straight apparently…!! But we met up and talked through it all over coffee and helped him out some stuff into perspective. Not long after that we met up again for coffee… And again… And again… And then one night we were standing outside next to his car and we kissed. We both knew that each of us liked the other, but I wasn’t necessarily wanting to rush into anything with him, because he seemed to actually be quite normal. It was one of those situations where we liked each other, but neither of us wanted to be the first person to actually admit it and verbalise our feelings because it would suddenly make everything real and when it comes to relationships in general. Nobody wants to be the first to say I like you because it comes across as being too invested in the relationship, and too eager and that’s generally a turn off if the other person doesn’t feel the same way.
With Hulk and I, it was like that as well – Moreso for him because he was still very closeted and not necessarily ready to open those doors and make his sexuality public. That’s one of the primary situations that I was there to hold his hand through literally and helped him find the strength to come out to his parents.
Knowing how much of a struggle it can be to do that, I offered whatever support I could, and sure enough, he found the courage to tell his parents… And then not long after that I was introduced to them as well which caught me quite off guard. Meeting the parents is something that couples do after they’ve been dating for a while, not after a couple of weeks.
We’ve now been together for something like seven years and regardless of the ups or downs we experience, I realised I couldn’t not have him in my life. He’s my best friend and I will always be his biggest fan.