Daily Prompt – Second Opinion

What are some (or one) of the things about which you usually don’t trust your own judgment, and need someone’s else’s confirmation?

Well one of the major things is sending emails. Y’know, because I have a tendency to be quite a nasty bitch. I can’t be trusted to write my own emails.

6 June – Comments: CLOSED

Would you read a personal blog without a comment section? How do you feel when a comment section is closed?

I’m not even sure I’ve come across a blog that doesn’t have a comment section. I think that to see one would actually be quite weird, because here is this person, writing their blog, generally because they have a specific point of view they want to convey to their readers, but they don’t want people to comment on it.

Apr 22 – Should I Get Involved?

When problems brew on the Internet, do you stay quiet or rush to defend the person at the center of the situation?

Ooh… this is a tough one, as I’m guilty of both.

Recently there was somebody on FB who made a comment which was quite disparaging and negative, and without a second thought, I was on that FB page stating the facts and pretty much putting this person back in their place, and advising them of the reality of the situation, as they probably didn’t necessarily understand the whole scenario.

I’m the sort of person that has a tendency to… um… educate people when they decide to post something stupid, untrue, or un-researched. It just shows their lack of intelligence, and it pisses me off when they take that stupidity and piss all over something that I believe in.

I’ve actually been told to reign it in a few times when it comes to voicing my opinions online, regardless of whether I specify that my opinions are simply my opinions and not necessarily the same opinions shared by my employers or my peers, I still tend to behave like a dog with a bone. Especially when it comes to dealing with ignorant or stupid people. Those people I tend to just go for the throat and completely humiliate as best as I can to get my point across, and show how stupid / ignorant they actually are.

Now I tend to just take a giant step back from all the bullshit online and let other people deal with it… although if far too many people are observing such improper behaviour online and simply don’t address the issue, THEN I’ll step in and call somebody out on what they’re doing or saying. Truth be told, I’m a little bit over FaceBook… it’s just proving to be the same shit on my newsfeed, and there’s nothing really interesting about it. I think that’s perhaps why I prefer to be writing my blog posts instead…

…no #100dayshappy here, or constant barrage of inspirational quotes and graphics.

Mar 14: Together or Alone?

Is it easier for you to work together with other people or to work alone?

 
I have no problem working with other people, providing those other people aren’t completely fucking stupid.

There’s nothing worse than being partnered up with other people who are just so mind-blowingly dumb. OR, have the complete opposite views / suggestions / opinions to mine and refuse to budge from it.

I’ve been in group situations where you need to work as a team, and I’ve encountered the rest of the group all having their own strong personalities and strong opinions – resulting in nothing being achieved.

I’ve encountered group situations where you need to work as team and everybody else in the group doesn’t want to take ownership of the situation, or be in charge – again, resulting in nothing being achieved.

But at the same time I’ve also worked in groups where everybody is on the same page of what needs to happen, everybody has been able to contribute ideas, and everybody has been able to discuss suggestions with each other, and take out all the best bits, in order to create a great result.

The latter, however, is something I’ve found to be quite rare. And I think that because it’s been such a rare occurrence in my life, when it actually does happen, I really thrive because it’s such an encouraging environment.

As a result, I actually really loathe group work, and avoid it as much as I possibly can, instead, I’d rather work on my own – at least then I’m the only person responsible for either getting something right, or completely fucking it up, and I’m much more okay with that. Groups can just be complete torture, and I’ve found that most groups waste far too much time discussing who’s going to be responsible for doing what, and discussing the process they’ll use, instead of JUST GETTING ON WITH IT!!

Even as much as I like to work on my own, I find that I’m always seeing group / team work around me. Scavenger hunts in the city, team challenges on my favourite cooking shows… there’s team challenges everywhere. There’s even shows dedicated to them – The Amazing Race, The Apprentice etc… all they are is team challenges. And of course, there’s inevitably one person, or one couple that completely fucks it up for the rest of the group. And why do they fuck it up, because they make poor decisions, and they make poor decisions because they don’t think things through properly.

If you can’t think things through properly, I don’t want you on my team!

Mar 7: Self-awareness Via Blogging

What have you learned about yourself through blogging?

 

This venture into blogging for me has shown me that I always have something to say. Regardless of how I struggle to write a post, I always manage to get something written, no matter how long it might take me to actually write it.

I’ve also realised that there’s quite a lot more inside me that I can, and want, to get out and onto the page (well, screen) which has become a realisation I’ve only made in the last month or so. I’ve always had the thoughts that there was a lot more in my head that I want to write about – real balls-to-the-wall kinda stuff, but I’ve actually found that I’ve been loving the creative writing challenges a lot more. It’s an outlet for me to really challenge myself creatively to completely create something from scratch, and then it turns into some long dramatic piece.

However I seem to be fixated on writing dialogue for some reason. I guess I did have a moment where I thought about writing a script for a tv series…

For a couple of my ‘creative’ pieces, check out Groupthink and Twilight Zone.

Would love to know what you think.

Feb 19: Facts and Truths

Marcus Aurelius said, “Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” Do you think there are concrete facts and truths, or is everything fluid?

You forgot to add, “Everything we read on the internet is true”. But that’s because people are just so gullible, they’ll believe anything you tell them if you make it sound even the slightest bit convincing.

Personally I believe that there are concrete facts in life, and truths – but really, aren’t they just the same thing?

People are entitled to their opinions, some know when to voice them appropriately, and others disregard that common sense and will happily shout it from the rooftops, but I find it interesting when people choose to have an opinion about something, but their argument goes against the actual facts of the topic of discussion.

These particular people are given some information, and then as far they’re concerned, that’s the only truth. Even if it’s factually incorrect, they will deny it, and continue to believe that it’s wrong. Even if you go to the extent of providing them with actual proof, it still wont change their minds, because they’re too stubborn to accept it, as it’s seen as a sign of defeat, and these people are never wrong. Even when they are, they’re still always right.

Ugh, they’re painful.

But even with things that we’re told are fact, sometimes aren’t necessarily so. I love seeing shows or websites debunking these so-called ‘facts’ and proving that they are actually, factually incorrect. Things that I’ve been told all my life; things that my parents told me, only to then find out that it’s actually not true. So then I start to wonder how these actually came about? Where did this wrong information come from? Considering that it’s something that’s almost ‘common knowledge’ that everybody knows, how is it that it could be so wrong, and yet nobody thought to follow up on it before now? Why did nobody think to question this earlier? Why are people just happy to accept something on face-value without putting more thought into it.

I’m the sort of person who questions everything. I can’t help it. I’ve learnt my lesson from not being inquisitive, and now I’m the one who’s always asking questions. See, I’m already doing it!

Jan 20: Conformity

Do you still feel pressure of conform? If no, what age did it stop?

 

In certain aspects of my life, I still feel there is almost an obligation for me to conform – regardless of whether or not I want to for whatever reason. Certain situations in my life don’t allow me to question people and / or their actions which I find so unbelievably frustrating.

Even if it’s something that I don’t agree with, or don’t support, there is an expectation of me to be a team player, whereas I would be the one to point out all the faults and reasons not to support it.

But if I do that, then I’m not seen as a team player, instead, I’m viewed as being too negative. I view it as being logical.

Rather than work out the answers to issues as we go along, why not sit down and brainstorm all the possible variables for a situation, and then work out what the solutions for those variables will be. I’m the sort of person that asks the questions that others either don’t want to ask, or simply don’t consider. That’s how my brain works. You tell me you want to begin some kind of venture, and I’ll immediately think of at least a dozen different questions that I know you haven’t thought of, or can’t answer.

The bit that really drives me up the wall, is that I will at least voice my concerns with whoever is in charge, which is usually completely disregarded, then later down the track something will happen that they didn’t anticipate (and something that I voiced a concern over) and then everything becomes frantic whilst they scramble to find a solution.

Meanwhile, I completely walk away from the situation washing my hands of it because I tried to bring it to their attentions, and they ignored me. It’s just that it happens more than I would like it to – you’d think that by now, surely, they’d actually value my input and listen to what I have to say, because I’m sure they don’t find any pleasure in seeing me sitting there saying I TOLD YOU SO… yet, they continue to let these situations happen.

 

My input means nothing, so I don’t get involved. But if I don’t get involved, I’m viewed as not being a team player.

I just can’t deal with these basic bitches.

The cherry on top of it all, is that these people are earning a fuckload more money than I am, and yet ignore what I have to say, even when I’m right.

So yes, as much as it frustrates me, and as much as it makes me start flipping’ tables in my mind, I really don’t have any choice but to just shut and be a team player – it’s my job, and that’s what I’m there getting paid to do, even though I might be surrounded by idiots.

As for the rest of my life, no, I’m such a non-conformist. I think I was the most when I was in high school because it’s all about trying to fit in and being part of a little group of friends, or a clique, but even then, it drove me crazy. I’m too independent to be conforming to what other people expect or demand – sometimes I go to the extreme of just being so incredibly stubborn simply to make a point or stand my ground, even if I’m completely aware that I really don’t need to be doing so.

*sigh* I’m starting to sound like a bit of a complicated individual. *lol*