Do you think you are more of an optimist or a pessimist?
Pessimist. Well, now I prefer the term ‘realist’ instead… just because pessimist has such a negative association. Some people can be quite dismissive of anybody who identifies as a pessimist, as it can be quite draining to be around somebody who is always so negative.
But hey, that kinda seems a bit contradictive coming from somebody like YOU!!
Admittedly, yes. I do have a reputation for being negative. But at the same time I also have a reputation for being funny, sarcastic, entertaining, and for being a downright bitch. But over the last 12 months or so, I’ve examined my behaviours, and compared them to people who are truly negative 24/7 and I’m nothing like that. I’m practically a ray of sunshine compared to those people… but then again, people seem to have different views of what being negative really is.
For some people, simply questioning them or their decisions is viewed as being negative, and from that point, that’s the only way they will view you. Others however consider negativity being somebody who is all doom and gloom all the time – there is nothing good that will come from anything that they do. For me that’s somebody that I would consider being negative.
So when I admit that I’m a pessimist, and say that I’m a realist instead, i simply mean that I see things for what they are. The world isn’t all puppies and rainbows and sunshine – but that’s how some optimists view the world. And part of me admires that about those people. Those people who just see the positive in everything they experience in life. Recently I’ve made a friend who is like that. She sees the best in people and in situations, and she’s one of those people who has a light inside her that just shines everytime she opens her mouth to speak. It’s something that I truly admire about her, and something that actually makes me smile. I got to spend a weekend with her, and her positivity is just infectious… but in a good way! She’s one of those rare people that you cross paths with in life, who really makes an impact, and is somebody that you will remember for a very long time. I’m so glad to have met her.
So if you’re reading this, H, thankyou for being you.